Life is so interesting sometime , we live the way we think we should sometimes and we forget to personalize our lives.
I use my self as an example .
My first marriage I had 4 fantastic children a Husband that loved me to no end a home . very early in the marriage 5 years in My husband had an accident at work and was not able to work again .
We swap roles , but did we?
He was home with the children and I started travelling doing what I love to do that was good, My Husband was home taking care of the children, But.
When I cam home I had to catch up on all the house work Prepare meals for when I was away not all but enough for a few day, Why did I do that ?
I did that because apparently it was a woman job to keep house etc etc etc, you see if the house was not tidy people would say , Gee she does not keep her house well , etc, etc .
But they forgot that I was out trying to earn a living for a better future for my family . My Husband he had it good , he could drink catch up with his mates not care, and I let him . till one day he said we don’t have enough money , and I said well maybe if you cut down on your drinking and smoking we might ? I remember a few times that I needed a pair of Bra or a dress or even shoes, I would not get it because the children needed something, we were that broke that sometimes worry about how we were gong to make it , but if my Husband wanted to go out drinking he did and then he would complain about how little money we had , so I said to him , o from no on you handle all the Finances even the Shopping . that was good than I started thinking why am i killing my self working and keeping up with everything , so I said to my self well if the Kitchen is not clean when I come home we will have take aways , that made it easier , but then I said that is ok but not solving the problem , so I explain to my Husband , is not a WOMAN’S job to do everything in a Marriage we are a team I don’t want my Boys to grow up thinking that their partners are their maid .so he brought me a Dishwasher , lol it helped but he didn’t get it . but when the kids grew up and started leaving home he realized then .
Our Jobs as Parents is to teach our children to cook , clean , Budget and respect and value what we have so they can cope with the world out side .
So I hope that My children don’t have role play in their homes , I hope that they work together with their partners and keep house together ,take care of the children together support one another 200%, and when it comes to money I hope they take responsibility and know , that sometimes we need to think before we spend , we don’t have to spend hundreds on Drinks , we don’t need to keep up with the Jones’s as they say . All we need to do is to live honestly with each other and not expect more than we expect from our selves with our partner,
THERE ARE NO ROLES IN A RELATIONSHIP THERE IS ONLY AN US
Marriage mostly fail due to Unfaithfulness and taking a Partner for Granted
Please think about the Love you have and help it grow , don’t drown it