Roles we play and shouldn’t

Life is so interesting sometime , we live the way we think we should sometimes and we forget to personalize our lives.

I use my self as an example .

My first marriage I had 4 fantastic children a Husband that loved me to no end a home . very early in the marriage 5 years in My husband had an accident at work and was not able to work again  .

We swap roles , but did we?

He was home with the children and I started travelling doing what I love to do that was good, My Husband was home taking care of the children, But.

When I cam home I had to catch up on all the house work Prepare meals for when I was away not all but enough for a few day, Why did I do that ?

I did that because apparently it was a woman job to keep house  etc etc etc, you see if the house was not tidy people would say , Gee she does not keep her house well  , etc, etc .

But they forgot that I was out trying to earn a living for a better future for my family . My Husband he had it good , he could drink  catch up with his mates  not care, and I let him . till one day he said we don’t have enough money , and I said well maybe if you cut down on your drinking  and smoking we might ? I remember a few times that I needed a pair of Bra or a dress or even shoes, I would not get it because the children needed something, we were that broke that sometimes  worry  about how we were gong to make it , but if my Husband wanted to go out drinking  he did and then he would complain about how little money we had , so I said to him , o from no on you handle all the  Finances even the Shopping . that was good  than I started thinking why am i killing my self working and keeping up with everything  , so I said to my self well if the Kitchen is not clean when I come home we will have take aways   , that made it easier ,  but then I said that is ok but not solving the problem , so I explain to my Husband , is not a WOMAN’S job to do everything in a Marriage  we are a team I don’t want my Boys to grow up thinking that their partners are their maid .so he brought me a Dishwasher , lol it helped but he didn’t get it . but when the kids grew up and started leaving home he realized then .

Our Jobs as Parents is to teach our children to cook , clean , Budget and respect and value what we have  so they can cope with the world out side .

So I hope that My children don’t have role play in their homes , I hope that they work together with their partners  and keep house together ,take care of the children together support one another 200%, and when it comes to money I hope they take responsibility and know , that sometimes we need to think before we spend , we don’t have to spend hundreds on Drinks  , we don’t need to keep up with the Jones’s as they say . All we need to do is to live honestly with each other  and not expect more than we expect from our selves with our partner,

THERE ARE NO ROLES IN A RELATIONSHIP THERE IS ONLY AN US

Marriage  mostly fail due to Unfaithfulness and taking a Partner for Granted

Please think about the Love you have and help it grow  , don’t drown it

 

X’mas Message

Every day this week I have sat down to write, on how the world  delivers Xmas. and I am sorry to say , that it has become a Materialistic holiday , where people are creating problem for them selves trying to get the best present ever. But they are missing the point .

the best X’mas present is you.

Share a meal, sing a song dance a little just be together.

X’mas is the celebration of a Baby  that was born and it was wonderfully gifted and able to show us the way of truth love and light .

wishing you all the happiest of X’mas may you have the gathering of Family and friends

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Overcoming a set back

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To Trust is a big thing . once trust is lost it is very difficult to regain.

Just lately I really trusted someone to organize a tour to be able to share the love and knowledge with all that are ready to meet them selves and awaken their potentials .

She informed me that she did a number of things only to find out that they were all lies

She never has the decency to front up  than  she still wanted to do another destination and I declined as I lost TRUST.

I can be your best friend as long as we are honest with each other , but once you broken that trust is over, so she rang me and wanted to meet to prove that she could not help the situation , so I  agreed to meet , but no show again .

but is a Lesson for me , even when we trust we need to double check.

Besides that I have had a wonderful few days at a Friends place , it has given me a chance to get to know him.

What ever happens in your life don’t let it change you believe or hold you back .

Take a step back and re-asses you plan and give it a fresh start .

I will send this person love and strength and I hope she can find her truth and peace.

Love and Light everyone

Walking together

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We need to learn to listen to each other as we all need one another in some way . 11703039_10153402798113908_6305097368921292391_n

So lets walk together so we can support one another and grow in Harmony

we never walk alone as Spirit is  with us to protect us , all we need to do is listen